Mrs Sande on why she walked out of The Mommy Club S2 reunion

Hosted by TV presenter, actress and singer Ntombee Ngcobo-Mzolo, the first two parts of The Mommy Club’s S2 reunion aired on Monday, as there is still a lot of drama to unpack. 

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One of the big moments of the reunion was S2 newcomer Mrs Sande walking out of the reunion after having a panic attack. In her first interview since then, Mrs Sande reveals her feelings towards the ladies, her friendships and why she left part 2 in tears. 

How was your first reunion?

It was not easy. I knew there were so many questions that would be directed at me because of the way some things played out on the show. During my time on the show, I was very nosey, trying to dig deep and trying to find out things. That may have rubbed people up the wrong way, but, for my first reunion, I think I did okay. 

Did you feel like the ladies were coming at you hard? 

Yes, just a little bit. I feel like I was targeted because of the things I said. However, everyone was shady to some degree and, because I did not want to be confrontational, I let it go. 

Is there anything you wish you’d said in the first two parts of the reunion?

I am a person who apologises when I am wrong. I should have apologised during the season and not waited for the reunion. In both parts of the reunion, it looks like I have nothing to say but apologise. But that is okay: I did not want to come off defensive, because I was wrong. It is not good to carry beef that has nothing to do with you. I got into issues because I was defending Ratile as a friend but when it is time for the same friends to defend you, they don’t.

Do you feel like Ratile could have defended you better?

Yes, I was shocked because she was just sitting there like a queen. I was expecting her to come to my aid because during the season, I was defending her, and even when I broke down, she did not comfort me. The person who was comforting me was Mrs Mops, which I was not expecting because I said some things about her, but at that moment, she let go of everything and came by my side. 

With Ratile, I am now questioning our friendship and wondering if it is real or if it was just for TV.

Do you have any regrets about anything you said? 

I have two regrets. The first one was gossiping about Mrs Mops after she confided in me. As women, we need to uplift each other and, at that moment, I did not do her right because today it’s her, and tomorrow it could have been me, so I wish I had handled that better.

My second regret is the things that I said about Happy. She and I are now building a friendship and I understand her better; I now understand why she is the way she is. I wish I was kinder to her at the time. 

What has this experience taught you about yourself?

This experience taught me to think before you say anything. Be calm, be the person that you are, and don’t let situations change who you are. I am learning a lot about myself and this has made me introspect and these are the things I am going to carry in my everyday, so it has been a great learning experience. 

How do you take care of your mental health?

Mental health is serious. I have always been open about my struggles. Oftentimes, people try to hide it. I don’t. I want people to know that they can get up and fight, which is why I always talk about it to teach and show people that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. 

It is not easy but there are things that can help you. You need to know your limits and know when it is time to take a break and prioritise yourself. 

After part 2 of the reunion, how is your relationship with your co-stars?

Like I said, I am questioning my friendship with Ratile. Nunurai and I are just co-stars; we have no issues. Nozipho and I are not close and she shocked me when she came after me at the reunion. I was so shocked; I could not believe it because we have always been nice to each other. I am building a friendship with Hermajesty and Mrs Mops; we hang out outside of the show and they have been very kind to me. 

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Age: 39

Businesses: Johannesburg Technical and Vocational College. SB&J Engineering Group, Lip Drip 

Husband: Benard Sande

Country of residence: South Africa and Uganda

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